Dating a quiet girl
They often get stuck thinking too much about how the other person will receive the advance instead of simply taking the plunge and going for it.
They sometimes don’t seek out their guy or girl for a second date – even when they’re still interested.
She however is not the type of girl I’ve dated in the past and I’m having trouble gauging whether or not she’s into me.
Having dated the loud, party-going types for the last 2-3 relationships that I’ve had.
Because shy men and women tend to be more introverted and more observational thinkers in the first place, not taking things seriously goes against the grain of the shy personality makeup.
But trust me when I say this: As much as a first date seems to matter in the moment, you have to put it all in perspective.
TL: DR How do I gauge the interest of a girl that I’m seeing who won’t explicitly state how she feels? I would guess that she feels anxious expressing her emotions, and she will feel more comfortable sharing her thoughts/feelings the more you express your own emotions to her (which will show her that you trust her and in turn that she should trust you). I wouldn’t delve too deep, but expressing your enjoyment of her company would be a great start!
Thanks for your swift response, knowing that it’s not just my imagination and that people do actually feel this way is quite helpful.
So at this point myself (M19) and the girl (we’ll call her J (F18)) have been on a date and have another one planned fairly soon.
Every personality comes with its own strengths and weaknesses.
With dating, shy men and women come to the table with a minor disadvantage because dating is a social activity, and shy people have a hard time putting their best foot forward with people brand new to them.
While you can’t change your personality on an ongoing basis, you can certainly push your shy personality to the limit for 60 minutes and initiate lots of good conversation topics. Overt flirting can actually be a turnoff for some, but a little playful flirting can go a long way.
Shy people often get too stuck in their heads to relax and let their flirting come out.