Dating guys out of my league
Treat her like a person, not like a girl or a woman or however you may think that women are different from men.I am very lucky to have many very close platonic relationships with women. Just like I would if they’re one of my best guy friends.But I've realized how a iterating simple phrase can become a concept that we really buy into and believe -- we contribute to damaging our self-perception.The problem is, when we say that someone is "out of our league," we begin believing it.Take the first step towards combatting League Theory and look in the mirror. Remind yourself of that fact until you believe it as emphatically true.But more than that, think about your talents, interests, passions, and values.But the point is that one thing is true for all of us: someone's face shouldn't hold more value than their heart, and someone's body shouldn't be considered more important than their mind.
Let's stop buying into ideas about who we be interested in dating us.When we're rejected by someone, we never say, "It must be because I have a really awesome future ahead of me and I'm a really motivated person." No.It's always something along the lines of, "I guess I am not hot enough/fit enough/fun enough/smart enough" for this person's attention.We need to stop forming silly little leagues based on the shape of someone's cheekbones.When you think like this, you can save yourself the heartbreak, time and energy that would have been associated if the person did pursue you and then you realized that you weren't a great fit together.