Dating someone 14 years older

When they find out my boyfriend is younger, one of the first things people ask me is if he’s immature. I obviously don’t think he’s immature if I’m dating him. People I barely know are always asking me, “But aren’t you worried about you guys not being on the same page? You’ll get used to those moments of realizing your childhoods were just a little different. After all, you didn’t exactly grow up at the same time. Sometimes it’s fun to be the experienced one – especially when it’s fulfilling for both parties.Which is another good point: beware of internalised ageism.

Younger lovers often haven’t progressed as far in their careers as older partners, or are still studying.

Dating anybody more than a decade younger than you – or sometimes even less than that – means that they’ll probably a) be much more plugged into the current cultural scene than you and b) have a totally different frame of cultural reference.

This is basically a joy – you can share things with one another and spread the love to your friendship groups as well.

That often means less money – but also more practice and expertise at having fun on a budget.

Anyone who’s not taking advantage will make it obvious by inviting you out to (cheap/free) things, or cooking for you, even if it's just pasta or grilled cheese sandwiches.

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