Dating while being a single mother
I’ve been flying solo since my divorce a few years ago, not long after my son Josh*, now five, was born. I was in my early 30s, single for the first time in 10 years and, after the trauma of a failed marriage, was keen to go out, have some fun and meet new people.
And, of course, the only way to find guys if you’re at home every night while your child is asleep is online dating.
Although I had no intention of introducing any of these casual dates to my son, the fact I am a parent did make me feel differently about whom I was choosing to spend time with. I’m sure anyone who has tried online dating has come across the married people, or the guys who are actually a foot shorter, 10 years older and 3st heavier than their profile suggests.Gradually I introduced him to Josh, and I also felt like I could trust him with my post-baby body.That’s another part of hook-ups I’ve found difficult – someone who isn’t the father of my child (and therefore has no obligation to be kind) seeing my body.At first, it seemed exciting creating profiles on and Plenty of Fish and immediately getting loads of messages.But I soon got the wind knocked out of my sails when I opened up to friends and family about my newfound love life.