Online dating men with children
Another man I dated for a few months got annoyed that I couldn’t spontaneously go to London for a long weekend because I had Josh.Sorry, but weekends away for me require months of notice and military-style planning.I once crammed four dates with different men into two days, but as my ability to pick interesting and nice men online seemed to be rather lacking, having four bad dates in two days was just too depressing to repeat. But I still think I deserve someone really special.Although I had no intention of introducing any of these casual dates to my son, the fact I am a parent did make me feel differently about whom I was choosing to spend time with. I’m sure anyone who has tried online dating has come across the married people, or the guys who are actually a foot shorter, 10 years older and 3st heavier than their profile suggests.I’m not sure what a man is his late 30s was expecting, but I sincerely doubt he’s found it yet.Then there was the guy who wouldn’t accept that I’m only free every other weekend and wanted to come round to my house once my son was asleep.At first, it seemed exciting creating profiles on and Plenty of Fish and immediately getting loads of messages.But I soon got the wind knocked out of my sails when I opened up to friends and family about my newfound love life.
It might sound harsh to ditch someone because they’re happy simply cuddling on the sofa once a week, but as a single mum, my free time when I can actually leave the house is precious, and I certainly didn’t want to waste it watching telly with Tom.Aside from the obvious safety issues, nobody expects child-free, single women to be happy with dates in their own living room, so why should I settle for that?I want to meet for coffees in lovely cafes, enjoy walks along the beach and go on amazing nights out that don’t end until the sun comes up.It doesn’t get any easier as time passes, but a combination of wine, leaving some clothes on and having the lighting low works for me.Things with Jack unfortunately fizzled out after a year or so – he was having a second youth of constant holidays and weekend breaks that I just couldn’t join in on, as much as I loved his approach to life.