Reading body language in dating
With celebrity breakups happening left and right, it's apparent that relationships are tough — in or out of the spotlight.Criticism, stonewalling, contempt, and defensiveness are to blame, according to The Gottoman Institute, a relationship research center. Here, two body language experts break down specific gestures that may indicate that your relationship is bound to fail — unless you make some serious changes.The same goes for other rapid movements such as pouncing or pacing. Think: An elderly couple waltzing into the grocery store in matching sweaters. "Mimicking, name-calling, ridicule, and sarcasm are all means of contempt, which leads to relationship sabotage," says Constantine. "It's troubling when one person in the relationship doesn't show the correct emotional response given the situation," says Constantine.Sometimes it's important for partners to balance each other out. "If your partner is stressed, your face should reflect that."When someone notices that they're partner has 'judgy eyes,' they'll immediately feel defensive and put up a fight." And that leads to a new string of issues...How does your partner react when you give a play-by-play of your day?
Not taking your partner's thoughts or perspective into consideration is a major red flag.
"If you partner begins to pat you on the back during a hug, it immediately desexualizes it, " says Wood.
"Let's face it, you and your partner aren't In emotional situations, we all have a tendency to find ways to comfort ourselves.
The same goes for any emotion that your partner feels."Yes, some of us put our hands on our hips out of mere comfort.
But when someone stands in this stance while sternly talking to their partner, it means that they're seeking control over their significant other.