Single dad dating rules
You should not be looking for a love interest at the beginning, only for friends of the opposite gender.Keep the friendships at that level, and you can honestly talk to the kids about your new friend long before she is a girlfriend. As you "play the field" at the beginning, leave the kids out of the equation.
He won’t introduce you to his kids right away though. He wants to make sure your relationship lasts before introducing you to his kids.
Last thing he needs is another hungry mouth to feed. You have to be able to deal with them if they have a tough time adjusting.
You also need your own life and activities, as his kids will have a lot of activities too! Remember this is hard for them – to see their dad with some one other than their mom.
They may be used to having dad all to themselves on their weekends with him (or at home if he is the custodial parent) and may worry about being replaced or alone.
Remember, the kids are usually the innocent victims in a broken marriage and family, and it is our first responsibility to meet their needs and take care of them.